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Why a blog from me, someone who has never been a writer, someone who has never been articulate or had a solid grasp of the grammar world. Because God told me to write. Several years ago a life storm invaded my family. God kept telling me to write it all down. I argued, but He would not let up. This went on every day for a couple of weeks until one day out of frustration, (I'd like to say it was out of obedience), I picked up a pen and paper and wrote for 7 hours straight! Do you think maybe I needed therapy and God knew it?

I've been writing ever since and have learned to love it! I started out sharing my stories with friends and family. I've now been published in a Nashville church paper, Our Daily Journey (a devotional site of RBC Ministries), PCCWeb Daily Devotional, Ruby for Women Ezine Magazine, and I am a contributor in the book Alabaster Jars, Life in Abundance Collection 2.

Why Ponderings? During this life storm, God led me to a pond in the woods behind my home. There He met me each time, teaching new lessons, reminding me of old ones, showing His presence and allowing me to feel His love through the surroundings of that pond. I found myself returning over and over to ponder, pray and praise. A healing of my heart took place and out of the experience came my first book, Ponderings From the Pond, then a second book, Ponderings From My Porch, and now a third book is in the works along with a memoir about my storm.

Why am I making myself so vulnerable? Because God has done so much that I cannot keep quiet. I have to share. Jesus's last words to his desciples were, "Go,tell." We are his disciples too and this is just one of my ways of telling.

I'm no scholar but I have heard God's voice in my spirit, experience His love daily, and have a desire for others to experience this also. I would love to share with all who visit and I would love to hear from you. If my sharing gets just one to ponder, to be quiet with the Father, to see and hear from Him or to be reminded of something from Him, then this is worth my vulnerability.

As you visit me, sometimes we will be at the pond, sometimes we will move to the front porch, and sometimes we will just be here, there, and yonder. Thank you for coming and please feel free to come back anytime, you are always welcome here.

May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.

Psalm 19:14

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My first book, Ya Know What I'm Say'n, has been released.


Ponderings

Ponderings

Monday, March 28, 2011

Tears

Frankie Valli is known for a song back in the 1960’s. . . “ Big Girls Don’t Cry”. . .remember?  Can you hear him whining cry yii yii yii?  If you’re too young, you might not know this one.  You can U-Tube it…Frankie Valli and the Four Tops.  It might be a catchy tune but I’m here to tell you, Frankie is WRONG!
I cried a lot several years back. Having a prodigal will do that to you.  Actually I have shed many tears over the years.  I am just like my mother.  She cries easily. Yes, we are those girls that even cry over the Hallmark commercials.  The world would like to think that we are weak people for doing so, but I wasn’t too sure about that, so I went to my Bible to do another study of my own.  I found out quite a bit.
            Guess what?  Jesus cried!  We believers know this one, because in our younger years of memorizing scriptures, we caught on to the shortest verse in the Bible. . . John 11:35 and it says,
            “Jesus wept.” He wept over the sorrow of his friends at the death of Lazarus.
            I bet he cried in the Garden of Gethsemane also.  It says he sweated drops of blood, he was in such anguish.  And usually when we are in such anguish, we cry.  And he certainly was not weak.  He is the strongest man I know.  He knew he was about to be crucified, to die a horrible, painful death, his Father turned his back on him during this time, his disciples…friends…slept when he needed them the most.  When the time came, the soldiers didn’t force him on that cross.  He crawled onto it willingly, willingly let them drive the nails into his hands and feet, willingly let them put a crown of thorns on his head, listened to the crowds taunting him and he asks the Father to forgive them!  When the soldiers reached up to give him vinegar and gall, something that would deaden the pain, he refused it.  He wanted to feel, to take on the pain of the whole world.  If that is not strength, I don’t know what is.  And yet, he cried.
            You will also find in Luke 19:41, that He wept regarding Jerusalem from afar, knowing what would befall the people of that city because of their rejection of him.
            Hebrews 5:7 says,
            “During the days of Jesus life on earth, he offered up prayers and petitions with loud cries and tears to the one who could save him from death, and he was heard because of his reverent submission.
            I loved reading he cried loud, because I have done the same.  He understands where we are coming from, how we are feeling, because he has been there.
            David, a man after God’s own heart, said in Psalm 6:6,
            “I am worn out from groaning; all night long I flood my bed with weeping and drench my couch with tears.”  I hear ya, David.
            Then in verse 8 he says,
            …The Lord has heard my cry for mercy; the Lord accepts my prayer.
            This tells me that crying is ok with the Lord.  The Psalms also tell us that He knows our sorrow and sees every tear.  He sees EVERY tear of EVERY person.  That is compassion.
            ll Kings 20 also records God seeing tears.
            Psalm 126:5 says,
            Those who sow in tears will reap with songs of joy.”  The footnote says,
            ‘God’s ability to restore life is beyond our understanding.  Forests burn down and are able to grow back.  Broken bones heal.  Even grief is not a permanent condition.  Our tears can be seeds that will grow into a harvest of joy because God is able to bring good out of tragedy.  When burdened by sorrow, know that your time of grief will end and that will again find joy.  We must be patient as we wait.’
            Another man in the Bible who cried was Job.  He is described as a blameless and upright man who fears God.  Job 16:20 says his eyes poured out tears to God.
            So you see, we criers are in good company. And did you notice these were big people?  It’s o.k. to cry, not just us big girls, but you men also.  A lot of the crying in the Bible was done by men!
            Don’t be ashamed, let the tears come and flow as long as needed. Cry yii yii! I know from experience, as hard as the process is, afterwards, you will feel inwardly cleansed, calmer, and you will sleep well.  And remember the good news in Revelation.  I found it twice…being spoken about believers…
Revelation 7:17
“For the Lamb at the center of the throne will be their shepherd;
He will lead them to springs of living water,
And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes.”

Revelation 21:4
“He will wipe away every tear from their eyes.  There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”

Could that living water be all our tears?
Bring on the joy!


251.  toasted sesame seeds
252.  spring, bloom filled branches inside to enjoy
253.  bible study in small group homes
254.  sharing thoughts with a couple at church
255.  hearing other people pray for our boys
256.  acceptance letters to school
257.  excitement on boy's face when he read above letter
258.  new, faithful, sincere prayer warriors
259.  that still small voice that whispers into the soul
260.  an endless cycle of grace
261.  tears

(be sure and scroll all the way down to see my husbands video of his photography set to music...be sure to listen through your speakers.)

11 comments:

Lisa Maria said...

Kristin.. as one crier to another.. I can tell you I always feel better after a good cry! I do believe tears are cleansing and healing. I had to tell my daughter in college that she needed to have a good cry (she's not like me much in that respect) she was holding onto and holding in stuff that just needed to be let out.

P.s. If that's your journal in the pic I think its the same one my husband bought me and I've started writing down my gratitude list on. What a coincidence!

P.s.s Could I ask you to pray for a sweet cousin of mine who may have endometriosis and is absolutely devastated? Her name is Natalie and she's not married and still praying for husband and children to be in her future. My hubby and I prayed with her yesterday and I could really use some prayer support. Thanks!

Love & Blessings

Kristin Bridgman said...

Lisa Maria,
I most certainly will pray for Natalie! Thank you for sharing with me.

It is my journal in the pic. It's brown with a cross on the front.

Heather Rae said...

Lisa Maria is right... tears are cleansing and healing. But I guess that depends on what "brand" of tears they are. Pity is no good. I can't explain it well, but when I feel just terrible and dejected I cry... and during that cry a fighting spirit rises up in me willing me to make a change for the better. That's what I call a cleansing cry. It's not weakness. We're only human. And God knows how much we need him and wants us to admit that need.

Thanks for this post! Big girls do cry!

Unknown said...

I don't consider myself a "crier", but I do know the benefit of a good cry. We can cry out to God because He understands our fears and frustrations.
Thanks for stopping by my blog. I am your new follower now. Many blessings! :)

Unknown said...

Wow! Kristin, this was beautiful! Thank you for sharing all the scripture and Biblical truths! LOVED this post!

Anonymous said...

Kristin,

In a world where we are generally taught to "with-hold our emotions," it's good to know that it's okay to feel pain, sorrow, and grief - that it is okay to cry during these times, for as you so truthfully pointed-out with the scriptures, Christ did the same thing.

What a beautiful post, Kristin! I am loving your ponderings! :)

Blessings,

-LR

Anonymous said...

My mama always told me I cry easily because I have a tender heart. Nuff said :)

Martha said...

Thank you, Kristen, for visiting me today. God is weaving a tapestry with our tears. I just emailed a broken and hurting friend telling her how Jesus wept over Jerusalem. She is an unlikely reader of "One Thousand Gifts." I pray Ann's story will begin to heal a heart that has been broken for far too long.

I'm glad God encouraged you to write and I'm glad He's let me know it's okay to cry too.

Kristin Bridgman said...

Thank you girls! And Martha, I will pray for your friend and healing for her heart. I know many hearts that have been healed and He can heal hers too!
Thank you for stopping by:)

Quiltingranny said...

Oh my, a bonded sister in crying at Hallmark commercials, how many years my family has laughed at me for this and of course the most recent was crying over Toy Story 3...I cry at the American flag passing by, I cry when I walk up to a soldier and tell them thank you, I cry in church, but don't make me cry when I am angry. Thank you for your post, you make my tears seem so much better!

Blessings

Kristin Bridgman said...

You are so welcome Ms. Quiltinggranny! Always a pleasure to have another "crier" friend who understands :)